Spiritually
speaking, it is said that even before you were born, the name of your
spiritual half has been determined. Each soul has a perfect match… your
soulmate.
Although
most people think of a soulmate as a perfect harmonious union of bliss,
your true spiritual soulmate is the person who is intended to help you
“complete yourself.”
Jerry McGuire was
right – soul mates complete each other. A person is unable to complete
his mission in life alone. Everyone needs someone to help them become a
better person. This is not always a blissful experience.
Being
in an honest, sincere, and committed soulmate relationship helps you to
become a better version of yourself. You have to push yourself beyond
your comfort zone, beyond your limits to find your better self.
Even
though we tend to think of soul mates as a symbiotic union; soulmate
relationships can be rough at the beginning. They can be like two jagged
edged puzzle pieces trying to click into place. Sometimes it looks like
you do not fit together at all, but soon after a little bit of
twisting, turning, and flipping the pieces around, you feel the moment
of the perfect click. It’s a feeling deep in your soul, that says, this
is the right one.
Often
soulmates appear in disguise. You might not be physically attracted to
each other when you first meet, but there is a mysterious force pushing
you forward that tells you this is “the right one” for you.
You
have a personal checklist of everything you want in a partner. Tall-
check. Dark hair (no curls please)-check. Blondes only-check. 6 pack
abs- check. Or you can be like Jerry Seinfeld who knows his date is not “the one” because she eats her peas one at a time.
So,
if you are brave enough to move away from your romance checklist, open
your eyes and your heart to unexpected possiblities, you might just be
one of the lucky ones who finds their true soul match.
You know you’ve found your soulmate when:
1. You just know it.
Something
deep inside tells you this is the perfect one for you. It’s as if there
is a spiritual force pushing you to let go of everything you previously
expected and to give of yourself completely.
2. You have crossed paths before.
Soulmates
have met each other and a previous time. You may not have connected,
but you were in the same place, at the same time. Before my husband and I
met, we lived across the street from each other and worked across the
street from each other. Yet we never met until the time was right.
3. Your souls meet at the right time.
Each
person has to be ready to receive the soul connection. Even though my
husband and I were in close proximity of each other for many years, we
did not meet until the time was right for both of us. You have to be
prepared to meet your soulmate. It could be that you have to go through a
relationship that doesn’t work out, or that you’re not ready to ditch
your “perfect person checklist,” but when it comes to soulmates- timing
is everything.
4. Your quiet space is a peaceful place.
Being
quiet together is comforting like a fluffy down blanket on a cold
winter night. Whether you are reading in the same room, or driving in
the car, there’s a quiet peace between you.
5. You can hear the other person’s silent thoughts.
With
soulmates, there is such depth to your relationship that you can feel
and hear what your partner is thinking, even if it is not verbally
expressed.
6. You feel each other’s pain.
You
stand in each other’s shoes. You know each other so well, that the
second he walks in the door, you can tell how his day was. You feel each
other’s feelings: sadness, worry, and stress. And you share each
other’s happiness and joy.
7. You know each other’s flaws and the benefits in them.
Yes,
it’s true. Our flaws have benefits. Every trait has a positive as well
as a negative side. It’s the task of each person to always look for the
good, even when things don’t look so good. There is usually a benefit to
each flaw.Stubborn people are good decision makers. Overly organized people are great at paying bills on time.
8. You share the same life goals.
You’re
both on the same page with values, ethics, and goals. You may have a
different way of reaching those goals, but you both want the same end
result.
9. You’re not afraid of having a conversation.
Conversations
can be challenging. Expressing concerns or attempting to make decisions
is uncomfortable. Soulmates know that if they join together, they will
be able to work it out.
10. You are not threatened by the need for alone time.
Whether
it’s tennis three times a week or girls’ night out, you respect each
other’s need for independence, knowing that when you get together, your
time alone is special.
11. You don’t experience jealousy.
Pretty
girls at the office or handsome personal trainers aren’t a threat to
your relationship. You are secure knowing that you are the only one.
12. You respect each other’s differences and opinions.
You know you have different opinions.
Often soulmates are polar opposite. At times this is challenging. These
are the times when you are being forced to let the other person
complete you. You still have your own opinion, but instead of agreeing
to disagree, there is a deep level of respect for each other. You listen
and honor the differences.
13. You don’t scream, curse, or threaten each other with divorce.
Of course you feel the anger. People unintentionally hurt each other. But soulmates aren’t nasty, hurtful, or punitive.
14. You give in because you want to make your partner happy.
Giving
can often occur in unhealthy, co-dependent, or abusive relationships.
But soulmates give to each other for the sole purpose of making each
other happy.
15. You know how to apologize.
It’s
not easy to say “I’m sorry” or admit that you did something that hurt
the person you love. Soulmates realize that their actions or words cause
harm. Even if they feel justified in their point of view, if their
partner was hurt by it, they can easily apologize for the harm they have
caused.
16. You would marry each other again.
You
know this is the one and only one for you. Even through the tough
times, you would choose your partner again. You feel a sense of pride in
your partner.
17. You complete each other.
Yes,
I’m sorry to say it but, your partner fills in your blanks. No person
is perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Soulmates complete
each other. It’s the yin and yang of perfect harmony. One person may be
the extrovert, while one is the introvert. One may be social, while the
other a homebody. Soulmates are often opposite that are attracted to a
person who has their missing pieces.
18. Being in each other’s arms washes away all your stress, worries, and anxiety.
There
is no place you’d rather be at the end of the day but in each other’s
arms. If you had a rough day filled with disagreements, a fight with
your boss or if you missed the train, whatever happened is gone the
second you cuddle up together. There is a warmth in your heart, an inner
peace you can feel. No words need to be spoken. All that exists is the
silent, blissful union of two souls together. Two souls that were meant
to be together eternally.
Source : lifehack.org