Michelle is in seventh heaven! On the
following evening she receives a message from her Simon. And her 7th
heaven falls to the devastating ground of reality. The supposedly
charming date writes her THIS:
My.
Wow. This exchange makes you really speechless.
“Hey Michelle, sorry been super busy at work today hun.
Thanks for a wonderful evening last
night. I really enjoyed your company and actually adore you. You’re
cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with
if only my body and mind would let me. But I fear it won’t.
I’m not going to bulls–t you… I f–king
adore you Michelle and I think you’re the prettiest looking girl I’ve
ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer.
Shallow? It’s not meant to be. It’s
the same reaction you get when you read a great author or see an amazing
image, or listen to a piece of music you love, it has that instant
reaction in you that makes you crave more.
So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your
face, your personality (and God…I really, really am), I can’t say the
same about your figure. So I can sit there and flirt and have the most
incredibly fun evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got
undressed my body would let me down. I don’t want that to happen baby. I
don’t want to be lying there next to you, and you asking me why I’m not
hard.
There are certain triggers that fire my imagination
into life and your wit and intelligence are the beginning of that
process which would inevitably end up in the bedroom. With just one
result….
I’m so disappointed in myself Michelle because I’ve
genuinely not felt this way about anyone in ages, but I’m trying to be
honest with you without sounding like a total knobhead.
We could be amazing friends, we could flirt and joke
and adore each other and… f–k me… I would marry you like a shot if you
were a slip of a girl because what you have in that mind of yours is
utterly unique, and I really really love it.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m trying to
avoid bigger pain in the future by telling you now so we don’t have to
go through that embarrassment. I’m a man… With all the red hot lusts of a
man and all the failings of a man and I’m sure of my own body and its
needs. Please try and forgive me. I adore you xx”
But how Michelle Thomas, the
oh-so-creepily-addressed object of worship, responds to this message is
simply brilliant! Read it for yourself:
“Dear Man I Met On Tinder.
I was on another date when I received
your message. He returned from the loo to find me in a flood of tears.
He was lovely, but baffled, and hasn’t been in touch since, funnily
enough.
You don’t have to fancy me. We all
have a good friend who we look at ruefully and think “you’re lovely, but
you just don’t tickle my pickle”. We wish we were attracted to them,
but our bodies and our brains don’t work like that. And that’s fine.
What isn’t fine is the fact that,
after a few hours in my company, you took the time to write this utterly
uncalled-for message. It’s nothing short of sadistic. Your tone is
saccharine and condescending, but the forensic detail in which you
express your disgust at my body is truly grotesque. The only possible
objective for writing it is to wound me.
And I’m ashamed to say, for a few
moments, it worked. You stirred a dormant fear that every woman who was
ever a teenage girl has – that it doesn’t matter how funny you are, how
clever, how kind, how passionate, how loyal, how determined or
adventurous or vibrant – if you’re a stone overweight, no one will ever
find you desirable.
I like the way I look. I don’t look
like Charlize Theron, and that’s fine – I look like me, and I like
myself (I’m sure I’d like Charlize Theron, too if I ever met her. I hear
good things).
You may think are all my profile
pictures are “FGASs” (That’s Fat Girl Angle Shots – pictures from angles
that slim and flatter the girl. Because men only ever use candid,
brutally-lit, unfiltered pics). But I think they’re a fair
representation. And I’m pretty upfront about who I am: I describe myself
as a woman who loves pizza, and include links to myInstagram page,
where I have the #everybodysready bikini shots I took on my 30th
birthday. I like to think I come across as a confident, happy woman. But
could this be the very reason you have targeted me? Did you see me and
think “She has far too high an opinion of herself, she needs bringing
down a peg or two”? I have to ask – we all know the internet is a
dangerous place to be a woman with opinions (I discovered this first
hand when I ventured a response to those obnoxious bloody adverts).
I showed your message to friends who
expressed shock, horror, embarrassment on your behalf, and a desire to
cause you actual physical harm. One male friend told me I have a lovely
bottom “if unmarriageable”. I laughed with them. Then I cried in my
Slimming World group. That’s right! Slimming World! You see, I already
KNOW that I’m overweight. I can tell you exactly how overweight I am –
20 pounds. I’ve already lost 15, and I’ve a stone and a half to go. I’m
happy with that. I will get rid of it, safely and healthily. Does that
mean that I can’t love and enjoy my body now? F** no.*
I’ll never see or hear from you again
(you may feel the need to respond to this blog. Please don’t. There’s
nothing you can say that will make me think that you’re not a disgrace
to your gender).
What truly concerns me, the real
reason I’m responding so publicly, is the fact that you have a 13 year
old daughter. A talented illustrator, who collects Manga comics and
wants to visit Japan as soon as possible.
I want you to encourage your daughter
to love, enjoy, and care for her body. It belongs to her and only her.
Praise her intellect, and her creativity. Push her to push herself and
to be fearless. Give her the tools to develop a bomb-proof sense of
self-esteem so that if (I’ll be kind. I’ll say “if”.) the time comes
that a small, unhappy man attempts to corrode it, she can respond as I
do now.
Simon.
Kiss.
My.
Exquisitely.
Unmarriagable.
Arse.
P.S. “Slip of a girl”? CHRIST ALIVE, that’s creepy.
P.P.S. You’re not 5’11”
Wow. This exchange makes you really speechless.
It is simply brilliant how this confident
young woman answers and how she defends her body - or, well, maybe man
just wanted to be honest and express his feelings!? The story of this
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